I had the opportunity to meet David Peterson, PhD - Director, Executive Coaching and Leadership at Google. I spend much of my day on Google and love its speed in getting me what I want quickly and in a way I can use swiftly.
David's reflections on the difference between a good and a great coach were just as quick to understand and easy to follow. One among his thoughts was what all us coaches need to do all the time and really well - help those we coach to hit the pause button and reflect. His four basic directions of reflection for us to ask questions to get the coachee to think on -
1. Look inward: What is most important to you? What values matter most and how are you manifesting them in what you are trying to achieve?
2. Look outward: What matters most to others? What expectations do they hold that you need to address in order to be successful at your endeavors? How do they perceive you?
3.Look back: What have you been trying to learn and what new things have you tried? What has worked well and what hasn't worked? What have you learned?
4.Look ahead: What will you do differently? What do you need to keep learning? Where are your opportunities to try new things?
If we commit these four to action, then they can spawn off several questions that will help us think every day, week, fortnight, month, quarter and year. I will leave you to discuss what follow-on questions make meaning to you and how often will you think about them. One that has worked for me on a quarterly basis is -
If I was to summarize my learning in the last 6 months into my CV, what would it look like?
In our pace of life, we think time has to be saved and not spent by admiring the bud that blossoms into a flower or the birds chirping. I think that's the wrong thing to do. It's taking a few milliseconds to enjoy such little pleasures that push us into the trap of being so overwhelmed with our current moment we have no time and effort to examine it in the context of the past and the future in terms of our personal and professional development.
What would your questions for yourself be? How often will you ask them and how much time will you give for yourself?
Reference -
Hernez-Broome, G., & Boyce, L. A. (Eds.). (2010). Advancing executive coaching: Setting the course for successful leadership coaching (pp. 83-101). San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.